Or, Committing Ourselves to the Journey of Awakening
This work is for thinking women, for women who are questioning, for women who don't just want to #liveauthentic, but to really intentionally and with purpose figure out what it means to be a woman ... to study womanhood and the "deeper issues important to women: the archetypal, the intuitive, the sexual and cyclical, the ages of women, a woman's way, a woman's knowing, her creative fire."¹
The quality of your life directly correlates to the quality of questions you are willing to ask yourself ... about yourself, your womanhood, your role and purpose here, The Whole Thing.²
We need catalysts for awakening, but we are always "waking up and then waking up some more."³ Once the deep part of us that was first moved by our catalysts begins to ask better questions, she's not likely to settle back down into the old way of doing things.
She doesn't want to be told that certain rooms of the castle are forbidden to her; now she wants to find out what's behind those locked doors. She doesn't want to be told how things are; now she wants to figure out what's what for herself.
We can either choose to take ownership of our awakenings, embracing the process and proactively seeking out new + better questions ... or we can ignore our deeper selves' desire to awaken and be willfully blindsided by each new catalyst we experience. When we ignore her polite knocks at the front door, she'll only go around back and knock louder until finally she's forced to smash a window in the basement.
Clarissa Pinkola Estes
So how do we heed the call and transform our catalysts into committed journeys of awakening?
We purposefully + consistently expose ourselves to new catalysts and new ideas about womanhood.
Or, My Beliefs About + Approach to Coaching
I am not here to teach anyone anything. I am not here to sell you my personal world-view or philosophy of womanhood. I am not interested in converting you or inspiring you or validating you. I truly believe you don't need me for any of those things. Here's what I do believe ...
Your Awakening is Normal.
It is simultaneously normal for you to have an awakening experience, and for your awakening to not look like anyone else's.
Your questions are the path.
Nullius in verba. Question everything.
Explore womanhood for yourself.
Reading is a "form of spiritual practice."⁵
Reading books about womanhood written by women helps you reflect on your own life + story with a fresh perspective.
you are fundamentally capable.
You have within you what you need to become the heroine of your life.
I am here to bear witness to your story. I am here to articulate the questions you haven't found language for yet. I am here to reflect your assumptions + paradigms back to you. I am here to help you see patterns in the ways that you interact with yourself + the world. I am here to provoke a deeper self-inquiry. I am here to challenge you to challenge yourself. I am here to accompany you along your heroine's journey.
Or, Support Designed for the Woman Waking Up
The Heroine's Journey
One-to-One Life Coaching
Are you ready to surrender your victimhood and become the heroine of your life?
Voice Your Story
It is every woman's prerogative to put voice to her experience of womanhood, and we start the heroine's journey by owning our backstories. By voicing the stories we have lived out so far, we recognize the validity of our place within the global circle of women and, in doing so, we initiate ourselves into the dialogue about womanhood.
Gather Your Council
Along the heroine's journey, we find we need companions + counsellors, women to whom we can look for different perspectives on what it means to be a woman. Gathering our council, we select (purposefully + with discernment) the voices and stories of other women, in the form of books or other resources, to guide + support the direction of our inquiry and provide new ideas + catalysts along the way.
Restore the Wild Woman
Within each of us there is an Inner Patriarch who has internalized the patriarchal + paternalistic mores of the society that surrounds us. We lead a gentle revolution to end the reign of the Inner Patriarch so that our inner Wild Woman⁶ can begin to rise up and help us restore the natural richness of our mental landscape.
Become the Heroine of Your Life⁷
We now claim our rightful power + autonomy, becoming "the heroine-protagonist of [our] own myth."⁸ Newly attuned to our own personal values (instead of our old inherited beliefs), we embrace the responsibility + privilege of personal choice so that we can re-enter the world as an active participant in our life, the competent writer of the next chapter in our own story.
Commitment: Serious. Strong accountability and support.
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Notes + Sources
1. Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype (New York: Random House, 1995), 4.
2. The Whole Thing, being the way the whole universe/cosmos fundamentally works (god? goddess? angels? demons? souls? reincarnation? aliens? time travel? whatever "is") as well as your place within it, according to your personal belief system.
3. Sue Monk Kidd, The Dance of the Dissident Daughter: A Woman's Journey from Christian Tradition to the Sacred Feminine (New York: HarperCollins, 1996), 1.
4. Estés, Women Who Run With the Wolves, 48.
5. Robin Deen Carnes and Sally Craig, Sacred Circles: A Guide to Creating Your Own Women's Spirituality Group (New York: HarperCollins, 1998), 203.
6. The inner Wild Woman is that part of us that is natural, sacred, and untouched by external expectations or inherited beliefs and values. She is also known as the inner Wise Woman, the intuition, and the higher Self, among other things.
7. Inspired by this oft-quoted phrase from Nora Ephron: "Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim."
8. Jean Shinoda Bolen, Goddesses in Everywoman: Powerful Archetypes in Women's Lives (New York: HarperCollins, 1984), 278.